Wedding Pack

 St Chads Church Wedding Guide

It is great that you have decided to get married in Church. In preparation for the wedding you have a number of decisions and choice to make.  We want to help you to make the process as simple and easy as possible.

The following are sources of help and support

  • Our vicar will help you each step of the way
  • Below you will find a guide for preparing for your Church Wedding, where you can download either the whole guide or just the relevant forms you may need.  
  • the website Your Church Wedding has all the information you need about weddings in the Church of England

We look forward to helping you plan your wedding service and prepare you for married life.

Rev’d Jonathan Nicholas Vicar, St Chads Church Sutton Coldfield

 

Music
Readings
Signing of the Registers
Service Booklet
Optional Extras
Fees and Charges
Planning the Service
Wedding Rehearsal
Marriage by Banns or by Licence
Wedding Reception
Here to Help
Service Times

View or download

Appendix 1 Typical Service Outline

Appendix 2 Fees and Charges

Appendix 4 Photography and Filming at the wedding

Appendix 5 Video Indemnity Form

Appendix 6 Wedding Service Choices

Your Church Wedding Guide

Music

Entrance Music

You can choose a piece of music for the bride to come into the church to, Traditional Bridal March by Wagner is often chosen, but other music could be used.

Hymns

You can chose 1-3 hymns to sing during the service. It often works best to pick ones that people coming to the wedding service will know well. Popular hymns for weddings include:

  • All Things Bright and Beautiful
  • Give Me Joy in My Heart (Give me oil in my lamp)
  • Morning has Broken
  • Lord of The Dance
  • One More Step Along The World I Go

You can listen to these songs and others, as well as entry music that you may like to have at the wedding

Recessional

You can choose a piece of music to leave the church building, the wedding march from a midsummer night’s dream by Mendelssohn is often chosen, but other music could be used

Music 

While the registers are being signed it is good to have a piece of music for the congregation to listen to. This could be a piece played on the organ, music on a CD that you have, or you may have a friend who is a musician and could play a piece of music.

Copyright

All music and hymns used during the service are subject to copyright and as such each piece used needs to be referenced to the artist. Most of the common hymns are in the church hymn book and whether you use them or print an order of service our vicar can help make sure they are correctly attributed

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Readings

Bible Readings

All weddings in the Church of England include one or more readings from the Bible. There are many popular and exciting passages to consider. Some of which include:

1 Corinthians 13

If I speak in the tongues of mortals and of angels, but do not have love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give away all my possessions, and if I hand over my body so that I may boast,[a] but do not have love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love never ends. But as for prophecies, they will come to an end; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will come to an end. For we know only in part, and we prophesy only in part; 10 but when the complete comes, the partial will come to an end. 11 When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child; when I became an adult, I put an end to childish ways. 12 For now we see in a mirror, dimly,[b] but then we will see face to face. Now I know only in part; then I will know fully, even as I have been fully known. 13 And now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; and the greatest of these is love.

Genesis 1 v 26-28

Then God said, ‘Let us make humankind in our image, according to our likeness; and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the wild animals of the earth, and over every creeping thing that creeps upon the earth.’ So God created humankind in his image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. God blessed them, and God said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth and subdue it; and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the air and over every living thing that moves upon the earth.’

Song of Solomon 2 v 10-13

My beloved speaks and says to me: ‘Arise, my love, my fair one, and come away; for now the winter is past, the rain is over and gone. The flowers appear on the earth; the time of singing has come, and the voice of the turtle-dove is heard in our land. The fig tree puts forth its figs, and the vines are in blossom; they give forth fragrance. Arise, my love, my fair one, and come away.

Mark 10 v 6-9

But from the beginning of creation, “God made them male and female.”

“For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate

There are many different versions of the Bible, some using modern language and some with a more traditional style. 

Additional Readings

As well as a bible reading you may want to have additional readings such as a poem or other reading. These can agreed with the vicar when you meet to plan the service

Readers

 If you would like to involve family or friends in the wedding service, then a great way to do this is to get them to do one of the readings. If you want someone other than the Vicar to do one or more of the readings, let the Vicar know, put their names in the service booklet and let the person have a copy of the reading in advance, so that they can practice the reading.

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Signing the Registers

Two Witnesses

Both the bride and groom will sign the marriage certificate and registers. You will also need to pick two witnesses who will also sign the registers. They can be any of your family or friends, sometimes people get their parents to do it, other times it is the best man and bridegroom. The choice is yours.

 Music

While the registers are being signed it is good to have a piece of music for the congregation to listen to. This could be a piece played on the organ, music on a CD that you have, or you may have a friend who is a musician and could play a piece of music.

 

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Service Booklet

You can customise your wedding by making your own service booklet. You can either print it yourselves or take it to a local printers. You can find a typical service outline in Appendix 1 Typical Service Outline. Once you have met with our vicar to plan the service, he will agree with you a final version that you can have printed.

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Optional Extras

Flowers

Flower can be a great way to decorate the church and to bring to live the colour theme of your wedding. We would usually charge for flowers in church on a pedestal and on the font. If you let us know your colour scheme we can get them to match.

You would also be welcome to have additions flower displays in the form of

Pew ends

On the pillars

Archway display.

You can find your own florist or we have a florist and flower arrangers who would be very happy to provide ceremony flowers for your wedding at St Chad’s to suit a range of budgets. For further details see Appendix 3.

Confetti

Confetti may only be thrown in the church grounds if it is biodegradable. Rice is also acceptable. Please do not allow your guests to throw confetti in the church building or church entrance ways.

Church Bells

Do you want the church bell rang at the end of the service? If so please let our vicar know by ticking the box on the form.

Photography

It is great to have memories of your special day, people are welcome to take photographs before or after the service. There is no objection to this, provided that they do not disturb the service. We ask that only your designated photographer (whether a professional or a friend) take photographs during the service and that you and they have read Appendix 4: Photography and Filming at the wedding.

The person responsible for taking your photographs should make contact with the Vicar, in advance, to discuss the correct procedure to be followed.

 

Video and Sound recording

If you are planning on having the service videoed or record any sound from the service whether by a professional or amateur it is your responsibility to ensure that

If you are going to film the service there will be an additional charge for the recording of music played on the organ and hymns; you will need to fill in the following form: Indemnity Form for Video Recording of a Wedding, which can be found in Appendix 5 Video Indemnity Form

If you are will be playing any other form of music from CD, USB, Mp3 etc you will need to apply for a licence to do this. Details on how to do this can be found in Appendix 4 Photography and Filming at the wedding or by visiting filming your wedding

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Fees and Charges

Following an initial deposit of £50 to secure your chosen date; all fees are to be paid by BACS transfer or by cheque made payable to ‘St Chads PCC’ at least one month before the wedding. We will advise you on the total cost, depending on your choices, once the details of the wedding are agreed. As you will see, some costs are compulsory, others are optional. Please be aware that some of the fees are set annually by the Church of England, so the exact amount will not be known till the January of the year you get married.

The cost of your wedding will likely be £474-£778 depending on the choices you make about the service, with a typical service costing £688. Details of which can be found below

Compulsory costs

There is a required legal fee for marrying in a church. In 2018*, it costs £517 if you marry away from where you live and £474 if you marry in your home parish. This is set by the Church of England nationally and is the same for every church.

This basic legal fee includes the cost of the vicar, the church, calling your banns, a banns certificate, the marriage certificate, lighting and all administration.

This required fee has ancient origins and ensures your church can maintain essential services like weddings, christenings, funerals and all kinds of other ministries for you and your community.

Optional extras

The statutory wedding fee doesn’t include extras you may choose:

Item Cost Description
Verger £30 The support of a verger, who ensures the church is warm, clean and tidy for your wedding and can help with handing out Orders of Service and hymn books etc. They can assist with disability access if needed by your guests and guide people to find their seats, toilets or crèche. We suggest one verger per 70 guests. i.e if you have more than 70 guests we recommend you have two vergers
Organist £90 The organist will play music before the service while your guest arrive, and can play music for the entrance and exit of the bride and for hymns.
Church upkeep £45 We would encourage you to contribute to the costs of heating, and ensuring the church building is in good order for your wedding day
Wedding

Certificate

£4 For an extra  £4 you can have another wedding certificate on the day, so that if you have to send one away, you always have one with you.
Flowers £45 We can make sure that the flowers on the pedestal at the front of church and on the font fit with your colour scheme
Additional Flowers  Price on application You may choose to use our in house florist to decorate the church with further floral displays
Video £60 Permission to video organ music and hymns during the service. PLEASE NOTE: This does not include recording any other type of music on CD etc. For this you will need to apply for a separate licence. See video and sound recording and  for further details

 

Bell Ringing £10 Having the church bell rang at the end of the service as you leave

 

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* The figure for marrying in 2018 breaks down as follows for couples marrying in their own parish:-

  • the fee set by law payable to the church: £441
  • your marriage certificate: £4
  • having your banns read at the home church: £29

Total for marrying in your home parish (providing you both live there) in 2018: £474

If a couple marry in 2018 away from where they live the cost breaks down like this:-

  • the fee set by law payable to the marrying church: £441
  • your marriage certificate: £4
  • having your banns read in the marrying church £29
  • having your banns read at your home church: £29
  • the banns certificate from your home church: £14

Total for marrying outside your parish in 2018: £517

Planning the service

Our vicar will invite you to meet with him to plan the service. You don’t need to come having decided everything, but it is helpful if you fill in what you do know or are thinking about in Appendix 6 Wedding Service Choices and bring it with you when you meet to plan the service 

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 Wedding Preparation

As well as planning for the wedding service, it is good to prepare for married life together. Therefore you will be invited to a wedding preparation session to help you prepare for married life together. In 2018 the wedding preparation day will be on Saturday 24th February and take place at Holy Trinity Church.

 

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Wedding Rehearsal

One to two days before the wedding service, usually in the afternoon or evening a wedding rehearsal is held to go through the details of the service. Those who need to attend the wedding rehearsal are:

  • Bride and Groom
  • Best man
  • Bridesmaid
  • Father of the Bride (if he is giving the bride away)

The rehearsal is also an opportunity to dress the church with flowers and/or pew ends

 

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Marriage by Banns or by Licence

You’re welcome to marry in the Church of England whatever your beliefs, whether or not you are christened and regardless of whether you go to church or not. It’s your church, and we welcome you! A complication will only arise if one of you has been married before, or, if one of you is a foreign national, but there may still be a way forward.

Most people get married ‘by Banns’ in their local church to which they have a qualifying connection. To find out which is your local church for the bride and groom visit http://www.achurchnearyou.com/ and put in your postcode.

You can marry in a Church of England church if you can show

That one of you:

  • has at any time lived in the parish for a period of at least 6 months or
  • was baptised in the parish concerned or
  • was prepared for confirmation in the parish or
  • has at any time regularly gone to normal church services in the parish church for a period of at least 6 months or

That one of your parents, at any time after you were born:

  •  has lived in the parish for a period of at least 6 months or
  • has regularly gone to normal church services in the parish church for a period of at least 6 months or

That one of your parents or grandparents:

  • was married in the parish

And did you know that if you move house, you’re immediately connected to the church there? That means you can marry in the church of your new parish.

In all cases involving church services – i.e. going to normal church services, baptism, confirmation or marriage – this applies only to Church of England services. Even if you cannot demonstrate any of the above connections, we want to help you explore whether it may still be possible for you to marry in your special church. If one of you lives outside of the parish you will need to have the banns read at your local Church of England Church. If you are a foreign national you may need to get married by licence, in which case talk with the vicar.

 

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Wedding Reception

As well as conducting your marriage service, St Chads Church has a church hall that can make an ideal venue for your wedding reception. The hall can seat a large number of people, has access kitchen facilities and can be decorated to make your colour scheme. To find our more, contact Hazel our administrator Office@stchadssuttoncoldfield.org.u or visit Premise bookings on our website.

 

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Here to Help

 Once you have met our vicar to plan the service, if you have questions or queries about payments or wish to make changes to your choices about: the flowers, photography, video, ringing the bell, reading of banns; please contact:

Hazel Geddes (Parish Administrator)

Office@stchadssuttoncoldfield.org.uk   0121 378 2705 (Tuesday and Friday 10am-12noon)

For enquires about the content of the service, including changing the date or time of the wedding, please contact:

Rev’d Jonathan Nicholas (Vicar)

Vicar@stchadssuttoncoldfield.org.uk  0121 329 2995

 

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Service Times

 8am Said Communion

10.30 Holy Communion/Family Communion

6.30pm Evening Service

 

 

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